I hate weddings. Especially in the Philippines. Weddings in the Philippines skyrocket to the moon when it comes to expenses, suppliers and to-do lists.
I was what you can call a wedding supplier for sometime, designing wedding invitations mainly, and sometimes other things too: painting wood signs, reception signs, designing the menu and the program page, and writing placecards, envelopes and others things. There are times I'd need to design a 5-page suite. Little by little, I was getting tired of seeing the same Pinterest "pegs" which was practically what every other couple wanted. I found it absurd to have so many things--photos, quotes, and even the couple's history--in the form of an invitation.
One day, I received an inquiry from a Singapore-based client to write on envelopes--a project I've always found value in--and as usual, I requested to see the main page invite when she sends the envelopes. She replies, "Well, there's only one page."
Wait, did she mean there’s no Entourage page so difficultly designed because of the lengthy list? No RSVP card that almost nobody uses, because nobody knows how to sign/return the card anyway? No additional page asking for monetary gifts nor a map that is far from being very accurate? I’ve got to see this.
True enough, the envelopes came with a sample of the single-page invite. It was simple, useful, and important. There was no overly styled name. No monogram that may only be used once. No watercolor wash that signifies the motif. In short, it was a no-nonsense invitation. It was during this project that I realized why I started hating weddings. That every supplier, every featured wedding, every Pinterest post is screaming, you have to have this, and this, oh and this, too. That there's a list of things to have in your wedding to make it perfect. This particular invitation, however, gets it. It’s for inviting people.
Following this project, in August 2016, I took a “wedding break.” Be arrogant as it may seem, I can no longer make for other people what I don’t believe in. Sure there’s going to be a decline in projects, but I’d rather have that decline and focus on creating art that matters to me, than do over-the-top invitations with an internal debate. They say that in anything, do what makes you happy. Do things that you believe in. Do something that is of value to you.
Will one be truly unhappy with a simple wedding invitation? Do entourage members accept being on the list just so they can find their names on the invite? Are couples inviting guests so they can give [monetary] gifts or to make sure the bridal registry works well in their favor? Please, if anybody says yes to all of these questions above, kindly rethink why you're getting married.